Because we are fighting with time.
you should make the best of it; I found a good way to do so.
I will post something I will learn every day.
There is always something to learn…
You cannot be many things at a time
At some moments, we all find ourselves obliged to be someone who we are not. We find ourselves in a situation where putting a mask over a mask is a favor you do for those you love so you can mentally and emotionally relate to their state and so you can get them to pour their feelings, their consciousness into ours to sustain the process of healthy socialization. We regard this as an overall good social experience; in fact it was proven that close friends often mirror each other in many of their habits.
The problem comes when you completely mirror your companions that almost all of their habits, their conduct along your daily life, which will affect your personality at last forcing you to lose the sense of uniqueness within your personality; you will be referred to as one of “them” – (regarding your companions) people will see no difference, you will feel no difference. The danger here is that the fate of your personality is totally depending on those you company.
“We are sun and moon, dear friend; we are sea and land. It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is: each the other’s opposite and complement.”
– Hermann Hesse, Narcissus and Goldmund
This is why it is advised to keep a good distance no matter how close, not in Love but in traits. Be conservative concerning your habits and others’ habits. Be strong about what you believe in and dive deep within it so that the Love of your personality can get you to a place where your personality is so heavy that you’re self-centered nor too light that you follow any coming wave or breeze with no judgment or vision.
“Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can offer with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation, but of the adopted talent of another, you have only an extemporaneous, half possession.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson