In the past times of my life, I came to a new revelation. I found out that as cliché as it may seem — the core of the lesson is in fact one of the most profoundly exquisite of all lessons that I have encountered in my life.
I realized that “Now” is the best of all times & that the present is the deepest of all experiences. That true joy and true fulfillment exists deep within the folds of all what happens within this very moment. That you only can maintain
To cherish now with all your might. To love it fully and innately and revere it in the most ways possible. To immensely pour yourself into all the feelings and sensations of the moment without transforming such emotions into thoughts. To realize that now is the most precious out of all times. Now is sacred and holy. & that holy is only inherent in the transience of “Now”. Transience is the core of our nature. This moment is only eternal in its transience. It is only completed through your ability to complete it… To perfect it in your heart and memory… It is the pinnacle of all intimacy…
That this moment is manifested best when you truly and fully be aware of it.
To live the fullest of life into this moment. & to live with such verve and vitality that requires a change of belief.
& That belief should encompass a new perspective. Something that I like to call “Transcendence out of transience”.
Such perspective is built upon three thoughts or techniques to follow — let’s call them : Detachment, Attachment, Self-Empathy.
I came to a phase where I got detached out of much friends — mostly close ones. I lost contact with ones I held dear and I had to live with that phase of detachment. With every friend I left behind I encountered one small goodbye. & with every small goodbye some old hopes, dreams and future planned was detached out of myself. I realized at that time that it is not the friends who leave are the ones you learn to detach yourself from, but rather a part of myself. That part that dreamed, shared hopes and future with another. It’s that part of yourself that you need to let go — that you need to detach yourself from.
& inside all these small goodbyes one big goodbye starts to take shape. You begin to see how you will leave everyone and everything. And at the end those ending moments will live inside of you. All the people you lost, the ones you argued with, the ones you hated and those whom you deeply loved. Everyone becomes more alive and more vivid within you much more than they did within in your own life. All the resentment, the contempt, all the pain, all the joy, all those funny moments, all the moments of relief and moments of tension, all the moments of belief and moments of doubt, and above all, those moments of Love — each and every moment of these shall remain within your soul. Such moments with all the people you shared them with will persevere at all costs. Into your memory they become immortal… They live forever… They transcend beyond the transience of this moment…
This is what makes detachment a powerful experience. You begin to taste the transcendence of what is happening through the transience of it all. You begin to see that it will go on.
Goodbyes are only as powerful as the next Hello that they provide. Remember that, Detachment of all what is old shall lead to attachment to all what is new. Just as mentioned in the beautiful piece of poetry written by the amazing poet and philosopher David Whyte — “The Journey”. One of its best lines comely written were:
the bones of the black
sticks left when the fire
has gone out
someone has written
in the ashes of your life.
You are not leaving.
Even as the light fades quickly now,
you are arriving.
So detachment of all what will not fit along your journey will become attachment to an infinite possibilities. In this phase you will learn that to enjoy “Now” fully you still need to get attached to “Now”. You need to appreciate being into this moment. You need to revere the “Now” and belief deeply within the transcendence of this moment.
This will happen for now you will realize that by implication, if all the past moments were transient enough that you lost a lot through them. & like the wind as they passed the moved on to another place.
The past have drifted away out of your own era. Out of your own world, your past have flown with all its people and its moments. This is why you need to love now. For now will also move away and drift far beyond your grasp. You need to mentally, emotionally and spiritually be attached to this moment with all it will bring of sorrows and joys. You need to realize that this moment is specially sacred because it will end, just like you.
The role you play into the world, and what you induce within it, is all what defines you. & here none like Walt Whitman would express the beauty and the delicacy of this thought like he did in his poem “O Me! O Life!”
The question, O me! so sad, recurring—What good amid these, O me, O life?Answer.That you are here—that life exists and identity,That the powerful play goes on, and you may contribute a verse.
It is only because you will end here that your role is innately necessary, and romantically significant. Same as “Now”, it is only because “Now” will end that “Now” is as necessary and significant as your own role.
The last thought that will reform your perspective towards this moment is to befriend yourself. To be aware of all what you are going through. To track your mind, & your thoughts deeply and unceasingly. To monitor your thoughts and be vigil enough for the causes of each one.
You need to begin to keenly observe yourself, right in this very moment. In this “Now” you need to be fully aware of yourself. Listen to it. Nurture it with all your attention and concern. STOP THINKING. Start to take notes. Start to breathe the role your playing in order to be able to alter it.
To have empathy towards yourself is the highest forms of self-mastery you can achieve. That means you cease to want things for themselves but you begin to see what things mean to you. You begin to realize that what you want to see is what you will get. and that your peace comes from within not from without. and then as Eckhart Tolle wrote in his amazing book “The Power of Now“:
Don’t look for peace. Don’t look for any other state than the one you are in the “Now”; otherwise, you will set up inner conflict and unconscious resistance. Forgive yourself for not being at peace. The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace becomes transmuted into peace. Anything you accept fully will get you there, will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender
― Eckhart Tolle,
The trick is then to accept your own pain this moment. To accept that imperfection of your state. To accept the unsettled. To make peace with not having peace. & then you will find that
The pain that you create now is always some form of non-acceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment. On the emotional level, it is some form of negativity. The intensity of the pain depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment, and this in turn depends on how strongly you are identified with your mind. The mind always seeks to deny the Now and to escape from it. In other words, the more you are identified with your mind, the more you suffer. Or you may put it like this: the more you are able to honor and accept the Now, the more ore you are free of pain, of suffering – and free of the egoic mind.
Why does the mind habitually deny or resist the Now? Because it cannot function and
remain in control without time, which is past and future, so it perceives the timeless Now as
threatening. Time and mind are in fact inseparable.
― Eckhart Tolle,
So, Remember always to find Transcendence out of the Transience of the moment.
Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. No man has learned anything rightly, until he knows that every day is Doomsday.
Ralph Waldo Emerson, in Society and Solitude, Work and Days